Document how you grow with each step, and the problems you encounter as you learn and grow.
Remember you may not be able to see all the steps, you just need to be one step ahead.
Share and Teach what you’ve learned.
You Are Going to Make Mistakes
In my previous post, I shared how I had to retrace my steps as I had not fully valued the purpose and planning of goals.
Because I rushed this step, I missed the connection between
Goal Setting and Happiness
Setting goals leads to happiness because focusing on your dreams and desires makes you happy.
(There is research that the number one goal is that most people want to be happy.)
Overnight Success is a Myth but….
When I look back I believe that building a business does not mean that overnight success will come but I also think that I can get rich quickly and be happy if I work hard!!
In other words, we have many thoughts happening, both in the conscious mind and the unconscious/subconscious.
An example is when you are driving a car (or walking down the street lost in thought) and as you go you remember something, say a conversation you’ve had or a particular street brings back a memory and you relive that memory.
You suddenly realize that while you were thinking, you were not fully conscious of your journey.
You think wow how did I get here?
So What Do You Really, Really Want?
Surprisingly, many of us find it difficult to answer this question which makes goal-setting difficult.
We are, on auto-pilot 80 – 90% of the day… meaning we live with scripts we learned as children when we absorbed everything around us.
On the surface, we have big dreams but on the unconscious level, we may be sabotaging ourselves with contradictory thoughts.
Maybe we are not good enough for that BIG Goal…
Limiting Beliefs
So there we are rushing towards our destiny taking our old ways of thoughts and beliefs with us….
The Most Important Thing in Goal Setting
Years ago, as I embarked on my journey, I asked someone I knew who had been in business what the most important thing I needed to know in setting up a business.
I never forgot.
‘What you think and what you do need to be congruent’
(in other words).
Your thoughts and beliefs need to be in alignment.
That is the work….
It’s a balancing act of alignment and action and that is the journey.
Ok, I know we’ve made a few detours but I hope you are beginning to understand how important goal-setting is and how we can get in our own way.
Take your time, this is not over.
Remember the Steps
Write down your goals
Make a plan of how you are going to achieve them
Work on your plan every day
Savor the journey, document the ups and downs, LEARN who you are, and who you want to be, and act that way until it feels real.
You cannot rush it.
Learn at your own pace.
Take your time to build up to goals, that Brian Tracy calls,
The 5 Ingredients Of Happiness.
health and energy,
loving relationships with family and others,
meaningful work,
financial freedom and
higher levels of inner peace and spiritual understanding.
HOMEWORK
Spend time focused on what you really, really want and desire.
Be almost in a dream state so that your logical thinking mind cannot say oh no, you can’t do that!
Be creative, do something to release your creativity, and then
Dream BIG,
Be Fearless
Eleanor
Please leave a comment below. I’d love to hear from you.
Every time I read one of your blog posts, I am always leaving feeling not only inspired, but informed on what I feel I need to do to achieve my dreams. I know this sounds cliche but I love how you’re focusing on the mindset piece to business creation as a main staple of your writing. I’ve said this before but it’s worthy of mentioning again, which is, without a foundation of a positive mindset, I’m of the opinion that success may not be possible. As you mention, goal setting is so simple.. and yet it’s so overlooked and undervalued. I’m thankful I have your blog to keep me on the right track in a positive mindset!
Eleanor,
Setting goals is such a crucial aspect of achieving success! Without clear goals, it’s hard to navigate the path ahead. So, setting those goals, creating a plan, and working on it every day is key. Success is within reach for all of us if we stick to that path. Consistency truly is the magic ingredient!
Sherri
Eleanor, absolutely spot on advice. Making the plan and then sticking to those steps. So many people just meander through the day without any real objectives. This way they don’t add any value to themselves or to other people. By having a plan like you say you have specific goals to aim for. You can add timings to them or split them into sub tasks to make it easier to manage. Great advice as usual. Take care thanks, Atif Atif Perwiz recently posted…100 days 18 mins – With a challenge for you
Eleanor, Great post! I too started pondering once I read your comment about congruencey. I think I match up most of the time, but I’m gonna have to be more conscious about all the time.
Eleanor,
What a thoughtful exploration of the journey towards personal and professional growth! Your reflections on the importance of goal-setting and aligning thoughts with actions really resonated with me. It’s true that progress isn’t always straightforward, and we often encounter obstacles along the way. Your reminder to savor the ups and downs, while remaining committed to our dreams, is both inspiring and empowering. Thank you for sharing your insights and encouraging us to dream big and be fearless in pursuit of our goals.
CJ
Wow, Eleanor!
What you think and what you need to do need to be congruent.
I had to look that up to remember what it means (it’s been a while since geometry!).
Wow, I don’t match up on that deep level. I’m going to work on that. I think this will require journaling.
I love this post. Sometimes, my feelings hold me back, and I need to explore why that is.
I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. My thoughts don’t match what I want to do.
Thank you, Eleanor!
Nakina
Having congruency between what we think, or truly believe, and what we do is the definition of integrity. I think learning to live with integrity – acting in a way that is true to ourselves is a goal we should all be striving for. But often when we don’t identify what we actually believe, or actually want out of life, it can become easy to live in a way other people tell us to live, and then we miss what we are here to do.
Wow, I enjoyed reading your post. Firstly, it is so easy to read, and secondly, I can completely relate to the self-sabotage of one’s mindset, especially when you are programmed to believe certain things your whole life. It’s so difficult to overcome. I even get into listening to videos and reading and saying out loud certain aspirations to keep my mind in a positive space, and it sometimes triggers more self-doubt and depression. I need to push through that better and get to the other side. It scares me when it hits me, and I tend to shrivel back into my negative B.S. We are all a work in progress, and I always enjoy reading your posts. Great job, Eleanor!
Hi Eleanor,
Loved reading this weeks post. It reminded me of one evening when I was looking at an awesome sunset. I found myself asking how many people truly took the time to stop and look at this marvelous scene.
Making sure that our thoughts and actions are congruent is definitely something we often forget; being reminded in the way you’ve written it, brings a smile to my face and definitely makes me rethink everything.
Thank you for the reminder and more importantly….the smile I have on my face!
All the best!
Hi Eleanor,
It is so true that sometimes we are so focused on our thoughts especially when I am driving, that we sort of go on autopilot and think I can’t remember a certain part of the drive. You think I hope I didn’t go through a red light somewhere! A strange thing happened one night coming home from work. I was so deep in thought I didn’t realize that I drove into the driveway of a house I had sold years before not far from my current home.
So true that your thoughts and beliefs must align. Setting goals in life can be very important and be more motivating for us and give us a reason to get out of bed in the morning and focus more. I enjoyed you blog.
Regina
Great post Eleanor,
And so true… I have no idea how I get to the office sometimes. It can be just a blink and I’m there.
And focusing on my dreams and goals is something I really have to keep in front of me.
This was a great blog. Can’t wait to hear next weeks.
Hi Eleanor, yes I do agree that goal setting makes sense in line with happiness.
I wrote a blog post the other day about how Brian Tracy outlines goal setting in a way I never heard of before.
You write down 10 goals in the present tense and put the date at the top of the list.
Then you look over the 10 Goals, and the one that really jumps out at you with inspiration, take that goal and put it on a blank page..
Then under that goal you have chosen, you write down seven things as to why, when and how you intend to execute the chosen goal.
It’s like excavating the deepest recesses of your mind.
The creativity of the exercise unleashes ideas you may not have thought of.
Hi Eleanor,
It’s so easy to forget the goals we set originally. We should always have them in front of us at all times, so we can stay on track all the time. Mostly, it’s important to have your goals in alignment with your thoughts, like you had said, or they don’t mean anything. In my opinion, sometimes that’s the hardest part… This was a great reminder of goal setting. Thank you for your post.
Meredith Meredith Moore recently posted…Acknowledging And Celebrating Our Accomplishments
Every time I read one of your blog posts, I am always leaving feeling not only inspired, but informed on what I feel I need to do to achieve my dreams. I know this sounds cliche but I love how you’re focusing on the mindset piece to business creation as a main staple of your writing. I’ve said this before but it’s worthy of mentioning again, which is, without a foundation of a positive mindset, I’m of the opinion that success may not be possible. As you mention, goal setting is so simple.. and yet it’s so overlooked and undervalued. I’m thankful I have your blog to keep me on the right track in a positive mindset!
Eleanor,
Setting goals is such a crucial aspect of achieving success! Without clear goals, it’s hard to navigate the path ahead. So, setting those goals, creating a plan, and working on it every day is key. Success is within reach for all of us if we stick to that path. Consistency truly is the magic ingredient!
Sherri
Eleanor, absolutely spot on advice. Making the plan and then sticking to those steps. So many people just meander through the day without any real objectives. This way they don’t add any value to themselves or to other people. By having a plan like you say you have specific goals to aim for. You can add timings to them or split them into sub tasks to make it easier to manage. Great advice as usual. Take care thanks, Atif
Atif Perwiz recently posted…100 days 18 mins – With a challenge for you
Eleanor, Great post! I too started pondering once I read your comment about congruencey. I think I match up most of the time, but I’m gonna have to be more conscious about all the time.
Eleanor,
What a thoughtful exploration of the journey towards personal and professional growth! Your reflections on the importance of goal-setting and aligning thoughts with actions really resonated with me. It’s true that progress isn’t always straightforward, and we often encounter obstacles along the way. Your reminder to savor the ups and downs, while remaining committed to our dreams, is both inspiring and empowering. Thank you for sharing your insights and encouraging us to dream big and be fearless in pursuit of our goals.
CJ
Eleanor,
I love your post! Gives us all a lot to think about! All very good info, and all very necessary for our journey!
Thanks,
Kelli
Wow, Eleanor!
What you think and what you need to do need to be congruent.
I had to look that up to remember what it means (it’s been a while since geometry!).
Wow, I don’t match up on that deep level. I’m going to work on that. I think this will require journaling.
I love this post. Sometimes, my feelings hold me back, and I need to explore why that is.
I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. My thoughts don’t match what I want to do.
Thank you, Eleanor!
Nakina
Having congruency between what we think, or truly believe, and what we do is the definition of integrity. I think learning to live with integrity – acting in a way that is true to ourselves is a goal we should all be striving for. But often when we don’t identify what we actually believe, or actually want out of life, it can become easy to live in a way other people tell us to live, and then we miss what we are here to do.
Wow, I enjoyed reading your post. Firstly, it is so easy to read, and secondly, I can completely relate to the self-sabotage of one’s mindset, especially when you are programmed to believe certain things your whole life. It’s so difficult to overcome. I even get into listening to videos and reading and saying out loud certain aspirations to keep my mind in a positive space, and it sometimes triggers more self-doubt and depression. I need to push through that better and get to the other side. It scares me when it hits me, and I tend to shrivel back into my negative B.S. We are all a work in progress, and I always enjoy reading your posts. Great job, Eleanor!
Hi Eleanor,
Loved reading this weeks post. It reminded me of one evening when I was looking at an awesome sunset. I found myself asking how many people truly took the time to stop and look at this marvelous scene.
Making sure that our thoughts and actions are congruent is definitely something we often forget; being reminded in the way you’ve written it, brings a smile to my face and definitely makes me rethink everything.
Thank you for the reminder and more importantly….the smile I have on my face!
All the best!
Hi Eleanor,
It is so true that sometimes we are so focused on our thoughts especially when I am driving, that we sort of go on autopilot and think I can’t remember a certain part of the drive. You think I hope I didn’t go through a red light somewhere! A strange thing happened one night coming home from work. I was so deep in thought I didn’t realize that I drove into the driveway of a house I had sold years before not far from my current home.
So true that your thoughts and beliefs must align. Setting goals in life can be very important and be more motivating for us and give us a reason to get out of bed in the morning and focus more. I enjoyed you blog.
Regina
Great post Eleanor,
And so true… I have no idea how I get to the office sometimes. It can be just a blink and I’m there.
And focusing on my dreams and goals is something I really have to keep in front of me.
This was a great blog. Can’t wait to hear next weeks.
Sandy
Hi Eleanor, yes I do agree that goal setting makes sense in line with happiness.
I wrote a blog post the other day about how Brian Tracy outlines goal setting in a way I never heard of before.
You write down 10 goals in the present tense and put the date at the top of the list.
Then you look over the 10 Goals, and the one that really jumps out at you with inspiration, take that goal and put it on a blank page..
Then under that goal you have chosen, you write down seven things as to why, when and how you intend to execute the chosen goal.
It’s like excavating the deepest recesses of your mind.
The creativity of the exercise unleashes ideas you may not have thought of.
Hi Eleanor,
It’s so easy to forget the goals we set originally. We should always have them in front of us at all times, so we can stay on track all the time. Mostly, it’s important to have your goals in alignment with your thoughts, like you had said, or they don’t mean anything. In my opinion, sometimes that’s the hardest part… This was a great reminder of goal setting. Thank you for your post.
Meredith
Meredith Moore recently posted…Acknowledging And Celebrating Our Accomplishments