Reflecting on my ‘why’ this week I discovered I had to leave my comfort zone!
 I sat for 10-20 minutes trying to think of nothing.
Instead, thought about my first post when I thought I had cracked the code.  
Indeed, my desire to build a business to help my family, and wanting to serve others is a BIG why, but my why need to go deeper than that. 
Even while I had Zig Zigler ringing in my ears, It’s even deeper than that.
“You can have everything in life you want if you will just help other people get what they want.” 
                                                                                                       Hurdles and Challenges
Knowing ‘why’ you want to start and grow a profitable online business helps you to navigate the daily challenges you will undoubtedly face. 
For example, one of the most difficult challenges for me is my time and how to negotiate between what I want & the wants and desires of my family. 
I feel tension between what I want and what others want from me.
Knowing Your ‘Why’ Makes a Difference
My mentor, Dean Holland in The Iceberg Effect, laid out an exercise to help us spend time to understand ourselves better and to be clear on our WHY.
 He says finding this path is like ‘peeling back each layer of an onion to help you get to the core of the onion, then ask yourself why, until there’s no longer an answer to give‘.
One of Dean’s why, is about not feeling like a failure and losing everyone he loves.  That’s when it hit me. I am where Dean was at the start of his journey!!
Discovering my ‘why’, and digging deep allowed me to uncover limiting beliefs that had blocked me in the past. 


Feeling raw, vulnerable, and thoroughly peeled, I am closing in on the core reason for my ‘why’ and am feeling pretty good.  


In the Iceberg Effect, Dean says, 

“Knowing your true and real core reason ‘why’ will motivate you more than ever before to achieve success.  Once you discover your purpose for being, you feel never-ending passion and adventure. 
Instead of dragging yourself out of bed in the morning, you hop out, eager to start your day. 
You will sacrifice short-term pleasure for long-term gain…
No longer a follower, you will become a leader of your life and of your chosen path, displaying courage, discipline, endurance, and self-control. 
You will take risks and inspire others to have the same courage.
Fired up, there’s no stopping you. 
So start today peeling each layer of the onion and become the unstoppable force you need to be!” 


Why Not to Stay In Your Comfort Zone?

So Why do we stay in our comfort zone? Because our comfort zone is the stress-free zone we are used to. It’s what is familiar. It’s also the place where we are the most dissatisfied with our lives.

When we stay in our comfort zone, we stay stagnant and the feeling of fear grows. We begin to imagine the fear of what could happen if we step outside that safety net. Our brains are trained to keep us safe so we feel safer in our comfort zone instead of facing the unknown.


  Reasons staying in our comfort zone stops us from our deepest purpose.

  1. Not reaching your goals. If you stay in your comfort zone, you are less likely to follow through on reaching your goals. Your fear, procrastination, or any other issue keeps you from taking action toward your goal.
  2. Lack of growth. Staying in your comfort zone will probably keep you from growing into more than you are right now. You’ll always be stuck, never going forward and never growing and changing. You might end up not achieving your goals because you’re stuck on doing things the same way you’ve always done them, even when you’re not seeing any results. You don’t step out of your comfort zone to explore what you’re capable of doing or what you can accomplish.
  3. Lost passion. Staying in your comfort zone makes it harder for you to find your passion. Your passion can only be discovered outside your comfort zone.
  4. Settling for less. By continuing to live in your comfort zone, you push yourself to settle for less than you desire. You put your passion or things you love aside.
  5. Your self-confidence lags. When you don’t move out of your comfort zone, you aren’t building the confidence you need to grow and take on new challenges.
  6. Your health suffers. Sometimes when you are not getting out of your comfort zone you aren’t taking care of your health either. From the fear of going to the doctor, not wanting to change your routines, and avoiding exercises for some reason such as trying something different.
  7. You’ll be unprepared for changes. You are inflexible and set in your ways when you stick to your comfort zone. Life can be difficult, throwing all kinds of things at you. Things can happen that will pull you out of your comfort zone even if you don’t want to. Staying in your comfort zone keeps you from being open to new possibilities.
  8. The reasons we stay in our comfort zone are the same ones that we should be using to step out of our comfort zone. Staying in your zone may feel comfortable but not if it limits you to settle for mediocrity.


Be Fearless.



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9 thoughts on “Your Why Gets You Out Of Your Comfort Zone”
  1. The best things come from stepping out of our comfort zones. They are called growing pains for a reason. It is essential for personal growth and achieving our goals. It can be challenging, but the rewards are definitely worth it.

  2. Eleanor,
    Absolutely, understanding your “why” is the ultimate motivation booster! It’s funny how we often think we know our “why,” but when we take the time to dig deeper, we uncover even more reasons we hadn’t realized. Stepping out of our comfort zone can be super challenging, no doubt about it, but that’s exactly where the most growth happens!

  3. Eleanor,

    Absolutely, stepping out of our comfort zones is essential for personal growth and achieving our goals. It can be challenging, but the rewards are worth it. Embracing discomfort allows us to discover our true potential and live a more fulfilling life.

    Keep pushing yourself and embracing new challenges!

  4. Eleanor, great post thanks. It’s inspiring to see your journey of self-discovery and reflection on your “why.” Stepping out of your comfort zone can be challenging, but it’s where growth and true fulfilment lie. Your commitment to understanding your motivations and overcoming limiting beliefs is great. As you delve deeper into your “why,” I look forward to you continuing to find clarity and passion on your journey towards success. Your reflections on the reasons for staying in the comfort zone and the importance of pushing beyond it resonate deeply with me. Wishing you continued growth and fulfilment on your path. Thanks, Atif
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  5. Hi, Eleanor!
    I have about two hours a day to work on my business. When I am working, I pretend I am facing a challenge. I do what I need to do despite how uncomfortable it might be. Then, I can go back to my comfort zone! Lol!
    That helps a lot. I don’t have to be this bold entrepreneur doing the unthinkable all the time.
    I can go back to cross-stitch and Kenny Chesney in a bit.
    And I have a bit of comfort in a cup of tea while I’m working away as well 🙂
    I can attest to your point about health suffering. When I feel down and don’t want to get out of my comfort zone, I don’t exercise or eat well. Your list of reasons why we should get out of that zone is very valuable!
    Best hopes for you!
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  6. Hi Eleanor,
    It is crucial to know your “why”. I have to think about mine often to keep myself on track and to stay focused. It’s easy to get involved in the everyday projects and forget what you’re supposed to be doing. That’s when I have to think about my “why” and sit my butt down so I can work and get closer to where I don’t need a “why” anymore. It really does help you stay focused with having your why. Thank you for your post. Take care…
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  7. Excellent post, Eleanor. By sheer coincidence, I, too, wrote about finding your “Why.” Doing the assignment that Dean suggests is imperative, as well as digging deep and discovering what drives you to success. I read my “Why” consistently, so I keep it in my mind and propel me forward. I think it is vital always to have an eye on one’s purpose and stay the course. It can be daunting to dig deep into your reasons for your ultimate goals, but it Is necessary so you don’t stay stuck in your little bubble of comfort.

  8. Hi Eleanor,
    Great post! That WHY is so critical. I’ve had to reaffirm my WHY several major time in the last 8 months, each time I was overwhelmed and wanted to give up. It keeps me going. And that darn comfort zone keeps wanting to pop up and challenge me. I’ve learned if I reduce stress and be comfortable in the present, it’s just going to create more stress in the future because life will be impacted by the 8 reasons you listed. Great list 🙂

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